Felicity

Social Skills 101

Now, I am no sociologist but most people do lack the necessary social skills to get on smoothly in life. Somewhere along the way one is bound to say or do something inappropriate that will cause the person to become unfavourable. Things are not all "Black & White" in this world. There are many, many things that lie in the "Grey" area. And the issues in this particular "Grey" area that people often find themselves in trouble for.
Society now is so complex that there are many different social behaviours. Influenced by relative factors that are some controllable, and some are not. A person's free will also determines how he or she behaves in life. Why that person makes this decision and not the next. We are no longer confined to a particular set of thinking, a set of customs if you will.
I have met people of different races, different backgraounds, different exposures, different educational backgrounds, different perspectives in life. It really baffles me that the concept of having a "Grey" area still cannot be grasps by certain people who are so bound to the "Black & White" theory. When they see someone doing or saying something that the person was not suppposed to be doing in the first place, but which they are allowed to do because they belong to a different social group, they get confused. "Aren't you NOT supposed to be doing that?", they say.
Well, what is supposed to be right or wrong in the first place? People determined what is right or wrong. I am not talking about the law here, we need laws, no doubt about that. What I'm talking here is social acceptance of behaviours projected by certain groups of people. See, many still fail to realise that some of us just refuse to follow the norm. Why is that person dressed up all in black and listens to songs worshipping the Devil? It's his free will. Why is that person a vegetarian when meat is a vital source of protein and other vital nutrients? It's his free will. Why does a child who grew up in a family of famous lawyers decides to become a monk and leave all material things behind? It's his free will.
The point I'm trying to make, is just that there is no definite wrong or right to a person's actions. If that person has made his decision to do something that you deem wrong, he is just doing things his way, in his own rules. The results of his actions answerable only to himself. So learn to mind your own business.

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Sit-Down Party Review

This is just a heartfelt "THANK YOU" to all those who attended and supported that little sit-down party we had to welcome Mr. & Mrs. Hiew, aka Jeff & Grace ;) to our little family.
It started out as a rainy day. As predicted, the scheduled 6pm turned into a 7pm. Which, by the way, is the norm for us Malaysians. =p Luckily, everyone managed to get here safely and with growling stomachs too!!! I was just delighted to be on the sidelines observing how welcoming everyone was towards Grace. Indeed, it really reminded me about us when we were back in high school. The commaradie and bond that we all share right up to this day which never seems to fade away. Grace is indeed a friendly person. No doubt a bit shy at first but I'm sure the next time we all get together we would all be yackking about like little ducklings!
I thank you also for your honest comments on the food that night. I must say I really enjoyed preparing the night's feast along with the help of Selena and Tracy. No doubt it wasn't as grand like what you would find in hotels or anything, but I just wanted to give something back to you guys by the only way I know best - FOOD! =p Hehe..forgive me for my obsession with it. Hopefully we'll be able to have more of such gatherings! Hugs & Kisses to all of you!

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Of fine foods & all sinful pleasures....
....Skillfully decorated salmon carpaccios on a bed of alfafa doused with cinnamon infused olive oil, complemented with a glass of Chardonnay...
....Heavenly chocolate mousse with walnut cracker base and vanilla sauce....
....Lemon baked salmon with thai mango salad...
Oh what I would give just to find someone whom I can share this passion of food for!!!! Of good food and the Nectar of Gods, such perfect combinations to ease the troubled soul that is truly ours!! If only everyone can appreciate how complex food is...How the pairing of what most of us view as basic fuel, just the right ingredients....just the right quantity..at the right hands..the work of ART!!! In this small world that I live in, it is indeed such a sad thing that many don't share my enthusiasm. Where is the passion in life?? To appreciate food is to appreciate life!! To taste the juiciness and velvety texture of a well gratinated lobster!! The fulfilling, satisfying feeling of having a piece of medium rare sirloin in your mouth!!! What ever can replace that, I wonder?? Yes, indeed...what?? And the exquisite wines that Mother Nature provides us! How else are we going to match wonderous food if not with the Nectar of the Gods!! White/red; Sweet/sour;Woody or fruity; u name it! Why else has God created such numerous grape varieties if not for the purpose of making wine!!! I say, we should all just learn to relax once in a while. Indulge in something just for yourself! And if pampering at the spa is not good enough for you, there is nothing that a rich, creamy cheesecake can't do! ;)

Posted by Phyllis at 9:42 AM | Permalink | Comments

Inner beauty...NOT!!

I just finished watching an episod of "I want a famous face..." on MTV and in this episod, this girl, who is not all that bad looking, went under the knife just so she can look like her idol, Jennifer Aniston. Now I have nothing against good'ol Jen, she definately is pretty, but why in the world would anyone want to look like someone else!!! (No offence to all the twins, triplets or quads in d world! You guys just didn't have a choice..hehe..) What ever happened to individuality?? To discovering who u r truly meant to be? Why would anyone want to copy someone else?? If u want to look like someone else, get their hairstyle. Wear the clothes they wear. Eat where and what they eat. Heck, use the brand of toothpaste they use! But to allow yourself to be cut open, poked with a rod the length of a baseball bat to loosen any fat on ur body and endure the weeks, months of pain on recovery, is just plain insane!!!! I say, if u don't like ur body, exercise. If u don't like how u look, get a makeover. If u don't like who u r and what God gave u, kill urself and be reborn again. Hopefully u'll get what u want in ur next life!

Posted by Phyllis at 9:40 AM | Permalink | Comments

Finally!!! I'm able to start on my own personal blog! I've honestly been trying for at least 2 weeks to activate my blog but somehow, the system had managed to put down that dream of mine...Couldn't figure out whether the problem was with my pc (which obviously wasn't) or the system. Well, now we know!
While I was away clicking all those required stuff to start this blog, I got to thinking that I am somewhat considered an IT Retard. Sure I know how to turn on the pc and use the worldwide web, but I am totally clueless as to what all that mumbo-jumbo that appears when u start the pc is all about! Not that it really matters, really...It's not a life and death requirement here we're talking about. Or is it?? (Think hackers controlling the world's nuclear missiles from some small shack in the middle of the Sahara desert!! Now wouldn't that be something!) We are so IT dependant nowadays that the very first thing my brother does when he wakes up is to turn on the computer! Guess that's some form of IT Retard as well, huh? Anyway, to all those IT Retards out there, those who don't know, don't really care and those who do actually know, PEACE!! ;)

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